Talking abit about military life (spouse side of it)....
Being a military spouse has its days (if you will). We have many different "jobs" compared to the spouse whose spouse works for... umm, the telephone company. We are the mom, dad, maid, chef, nanny all put into one. Being a military spouse is a tough job. It is no cake walk that is for sure. If you decide to marry someone who is in the military, please don't be one of those (and i do know a few of them and seen it happen) who thinks that marrying them, you will have it easy, they will be home every night, you will live in the best house, have alot of money, never move, etc... Well, that is not the way, marrying someone who is in the military, you are not marrying just them, you are also marrying the military, per say, you being the spouse represent that person and the command they work for. Your spouse (if he/she) are home every night, you are one luck person. You move every 3 years to anywhere in the world. Your spouse will have their work that they have to take care of, and sometimes it is first before the family. Being a military wife, I can honestly say, I would not have it any other way. Not only is it prettymuch all I know (growing up in a military family), but it is a stable job, that I know he can't get fired from, steady income (not the best but can't complain), housing is provided, as well as medical care/insurance. The nice thing is, you get to see different places all over the world for "free". So, while your military spouse is working or gone for 30 days or 3 months or however long, you can go out and see the sights and such. You get to meet new people and other military spouses and can sit down and compare notes and learn new things that maybe you did not know about. Also, being a military spouse, you get to be rewarded for being supportive of your military member's career choice. You feel blessed and happy when they come home, and sad when they have to leave on a deployment or exercise. So, for those out there who are getting rdy to marry that military member, I hope this helped ease and soften the blow of what exactly you will be getting when you say "I do."
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What position does your husband have?
I just started a blog myself :) Its nice to be able to just write. My husband is currently deployed so hopefully I can help someone or give some advice. It is great to see other marine wives doing the same :) Semper Fi!
Hi, interesting read. I basically knew all of what you wrote, but it did help me a little bit. I am not a military spouse myself, but soon to be one. Seventeen, yes, seventeen, is quite young to get married in most eyes. But if you feel that it is right and feel that you are ready (ready to go through all the pain of having to say goodbye for long periods of time, ready to see how strong you truly are, ready to be mainly second in his life), then your age shouldnt matter, right? I know many will preach to me about how hard it is to be married as a teenager (I welcome anyone who wishes to), I know many will think that it will not work out and just end in divorce, and I know that many will look down on us because of our age. A persons age should not matter when they are in love and when they feel that they can do this and that it is right, right? I know most young marriages end in divorce, I know that, especially when they are married to the military. But those are the ones who could not make it work were not strong enough to be a military wife, or husband. And one or the other were most likely not faithful. Those are the only two reasons I can think of (at the moment because I have not slept yet and its about 7am already). It wasnt because they "fell out of love." You cant fall out of love. If thats the case, then they were never in love in the first place. I am to become a military spouse in September. My guy graduates from boot September 10th:) I cant wait to see him!
Anyways, I didnt mean to write a big thing, I only wanted to say that your post helped me a bit. And that I think you should have continued with this blog.
Oh, and you live in Yuma, Arizona, right?? I live in Safford, Arizona. I know a girl who also lives in Yuma and her boyfriend is also in boot camp right now and her boyfriend and my guy are real good friends. I thought that was really cool. Lol. But anyways...
I have a good one for you guys, I'm a 46 year old man who is married to a 30 year old Beautiful Woman both prior military but she decided at 30 to go into the Marines. She just left for MCT after having 2 weeks of RA. It was absoulutly the worst 2 weeks of our marriage. I did not have a clue what to expect they used her as much as they could to try to recruit because there are not that many women in the Marines.I have been the decision maker in my life and family and bread winner for the last 26 years most from a previous marriage so you can not imagine the shift from that to not having any control over anything.If someone has any advice for the Male Marine Spouse out there let me know I'm sure I'm one of the few of the few.
i am 18 going on 19 in feb and my bf and i plan to get married when hes done with training. he leaves for boot camp in 3 weeks. i feel i can be strong. we been together for over a year and ive known him since kindergarten. hes not going in for combat but aviation repair. for tht job i would think hed be home every night but what do u think?
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